By Lois, 2^nd year BSc Psychology with Criminology NTU Student

It’s OK to not be OK! You may believe you’re the only one struggling with mental health, but trust me, you’re not. From my personal experience, it can feel so lonely, especially if you repeatedly isolate yourself and your feelings. Of course, it’s easier said than done, but one of the best ways to feel less alone is to speak up and normalise it.

It’s so important that everyone feels safe enough, and confident enough, to talk about their struggles because it’s normal. It’s normal to have bad days, it’s normal to need a little extra support and it’s normal for getting out of bed to be the hardest part of your day. But what if you feel you don’t have a strong support network to talk about things? That’s fine! There are loads and loads of different types of support available, some you may have never even heard of. But normalising it and promoting support & well-being services, could make things the tiniest bit easier for people who are struggling in silence.

Now, there are so many common misconceptions surrounding mental health that contribute to the stigmas which, unfortunately, persist in society today and may prevent you from reaching out (but it really shouldn’t!). The myth that “mental illness is a sign of weakness” is a stigma that really gets to me. The reality of mental illness does not mean you have failed or are weak -in fact – it shows a sign of strength and courage, as you can personally identify your struggles, and work on your next steps to cope with them. Like I said before – It’s OK to not be OK, and seeking help is not a sign of weakness.

Mental health conditions arise from a complex array of factors from biological roots (genetic inheritance- don’t worry I won’t get into all of that!)- to psychological/environmental conditions; anyone despite their strength or courage, can experience them. I felt ashamed of myself for feeling the way I did, having bad days every day – but I can promise you one thing, telling someone saved my life.

“A problem shared is a problem halved.”

How can I start a conversation about how I feel? Be honest and be open – only share what you feel comfortable sharing, most importantly. One small step forward is better than a step back or staying put. Have a think about who you are close to, and who you trust (a friend, family member, partner, teacher, co-worker?) or consider professional advice (GP, School counsellor etc…). Find a space you feel comfortable in, you have enough time to speak without being rushed or maybe do an activity/something calming so the focus isn’t primarily on the conversation. I know talking about our problems can be so tough, and if you don’t feel comfortable to speak face-to-face, there are crisis teams available such as SHOUT (85258 – crisis text line) who you can text anonymously for support – even if you just want a chat!

The importance of having an open conversation can feel like a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. Talking won’t immediately solve your problems and that’s OK, but it’s a step forward to managing them in a way that suits you best.

I understand not having a support network might make you feel like – “Well who I can talk to?” – Well, I’ve got you! In recent years I have come across many contacts and self-care ways to make things more manageable for me, and they might be for you too

1. Crisis services/ MH Helplines – E.g. SHOUT, Samaritans, CALM etc… which you can text/call anonymously for ‘in the moment support’ (these are anonymous unless they are concerned for your safety).

2. Professional Support – GP, NHS :111/999, Student Support Services, Nottinghamshire Talking Therapies– these can be beneficial in terms of longer-term support, and you can be referred to the correct support for you.

3. Make a routine – It really helps to feel organised and in control, it also gives a sense of accomplishment when you can reflect on all the tasks you have completed!

4. Exercise – it has so many physical and mental benefits – going for a walk, a run, cycling, swimming etc… can provide you with such a clearer headspace.

5. Self-care – Remember to look after yourself and RELAX! Take some time to do things you love, or just chill with some snacks and favourite tv show! Taking time to wind down is so important!

The take home message from this is ‘IT’S OK TO NOT BE OK!’. We are humans. We have emotions. We all struggle and you’re NEVER alone. We just need to normalise it and realise it’s OK to speak up and talk to someone when we need support.

For help, advice and resources whilst studying at NTU, take a look at the following for sources of support.
Support from NTU
Self-Care books in NTU’s libraries
Silvercloud: SilverCloud is our online system designed to help with a range of mental health issues.
Health and Wellbeing resources
NTSU Information and Advice service
Wellness in Mind: Advice and support for anyone in Nottingham experiencing issues with their mental wellbeing
Student Minds or Student Space
10 Keys to happiness
Mind
Papyrus
CALM